Delhi's most famous tourist spot - the Qutb Minar
The colourful jholas at Delhi Haat
The ever serene Lotus Temple
National Rail Museum
National Science Museum
The imposing Rashtrapati Bhavan
Saturday, August 11, 2012
Delhi through my eyes
I recently had a chance to visit the National Capital. Some of the sights I captured on this journey are:
Thursday, August 09, 2012
From Aankhen to Zanjeer - and everything in between!
I have been an avid and a long-time reader of Diptakirti Chaudhuri's blog. Though I do not share his love for food or sports, I do love reading about his obsession with Bollywood. One has only to go through some random entries on his blog to realize it. Thus, it comes as no surprise that the man actually chose to write a book on it!
The first thing that strikes you about Kitnay Aadmi Thay (KAT) is that it has no contents section in the front and no index in the back. It is a completely random book that the reader is supposed to read as s/he wishes - jumping from one list to the other. The book is a collection of several random lists which make for interesting reading. To whet your appetite, some of the lists include: Song Names which Became Movies, Top Brother-Sister Pairs, Roles which went beyond the Movies, Movies which Inspired Other Movies, etc. I am only half-way through the book but believe me when I say that the book is unputdownable. I was reading it at breakfast this morning and almost got late for work on a Monday morning!!!
Dipta's obsession with certain Bollywood celebrities for e.g. Big B, RDB, Madhuri, etc. is quite apparent throughout the book. Sholay, which the author mentions as The Greatest Movie Ever Made, also appears in quite a few lists. As does a personal favourite of mine - Jaane Bhi Do Yaaron!!!
The book is peppered with a healthy dose of humour in Dipta's inimitable writing style. Sample this: Speaking about Kal Ho Naa Ho, the author says that when your doctor Sonali Bendre leaves you to marry Sanjay Kapoor, you should commit suicide if you do not die of an illness :)
I am sure the book will be a great gift for those who have impromptu quizzes on Bollywood or for those who want to know every minute detail about the movies (like me - what book was Sharmila reading in Mere Sapnon Ki Rani? what was Amol Palekar's qualification in Golmaal? why did the kid Anjali's parents name her Anjali in Kuch Kuch Hota Hain? :)) I have bought 5 copies of the book to gift my family and friends. I have loved the book so far and I hope they do too!
The only thing left for Dipta to do now is come out with a second book listing all the things which he mentions in KAT would require a separate book :)
This review has been published on www.homeshop18.com.
Kitnay Aadmi Thay : Completely Useless Bollywood Trivia by Diptakirti Chaudhuri
Tuesday, August 07, 2012
Love Marriage Or Arranged Marriage
The debate between Love Marriage and Arranged Marriage is an old one and is in existence since time immemorial. In the olden days, even royalty and politicians used to go in for an arranged marriage to ensure their status and wealth in society. Arranged marriage is a common phenomenon in countries like India. However, the Western world frowns upon such a practice and openly advocates love marriage.
This blog entry (being submitted as an entry for the Indiblogger contest www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange) shall try and examine the pros and cons of both the approaches.
Arranged marriage, as a concept, is based on the premise that your elders know what is best for you and can take a better decision than you. Also, in olden times, when marriages used to happen at a young age, the groom and the bride were not mature enough to take such an important decision of choosing their life partner. Additionally, since in the earlier ages, a lot of women were not going in for higher education or forming a large part of the workforce, it was difficult to fall in love and ensure its culmination into marriage (which is largely the scenario these days). Also, especially in India, since religions/castes/sects/sub-sects/languages, etc. plays such a pivotal role in our day-to-day living, fixing a marriage with a person from the same religion/caste, etc. was being practised.
The main advantage (if you can call it that) in an arranged marriage is that you can explore a completely new relationship with your spouse as you go along on the journey of life. Everything is an adventure, everything seems special and new. Also, since your parents have fixed the relation, you have their unstinted support when it comes to your family life. Adjustment issues might be minimized based on the religion/caste/language criteria. Also, you are more willing to adjust and ensure not to hurt your partner since both of you are learning each other’s habits and way of living on almost a daily basis.
The argument in favour of arranged marriage can also be made based on the fact that so many of them are working successfully since time immemorial. And the husband and wife have truly learned to love each other after marriage.
In recent times, due to globalization, increased presence of women at the workforce/in higher education and the youth being more aware, love marriages are gaining prominence, even in a traditional society like India. Firstly, the young are marrying at a relatively later age, after having established themselves financially. Thus, they believe they are mature enough to select a life partner themselves and not depend on their family.
Secondly, there are enough opportunities available to today’s youth to mingle with each other, fall in love and eventually get married. Love marriages usually happen during Engineering/MBA/CA days or when two people work together on a prolonged basis. Being with each other almost day in and day out exposes you to the person’s true nature – their likes/dislikes, their strengths/weaknesses, their temper, their thinking, etc. Based on the same, a judgement can be made about whether one is compatible with the other.
A break-down of religious/casteist sentiments has led to a surge in inter-caste/inter-religious marriages in recent times. Today parents are also more open-minded in accepting such alliances compared to previous times.
One of the primary negatives associated with an arranged marriage is the inability to adjust. As there is not much time for the couple to interact before marriage, in case one of them has very shocking qualities/habits, it may become difficult for the other to adjust. Also, it is generally believed that both the groom and the bride are on their best behaviour before marriage and the real nature comes out into the open only after marriage.
It is also usually observed (though not necessarily) that the practise of arranged marriage is associated with dowry. The boy’s parents demand a lot of things pre-marriage and the girl’s family, in a bid to placate them, provide the same. This, however, continues throughout the lifetime which may put the girl’s family under a heavy burden.
The negatives around love marriage usually center around the fact that either the boy or the girl “change” their habits after marriage. Since both have spent a reasonable amount of time with each other before getting married, they believe they know each other in and out. But, as they say, a husband is different from a boyfriend. This may lead to disputes between the couple. The willingness to adjust is minimal for the same reasons stated above.
Sometimes, in case either of the families does not support the marriage for whatever reason, the couple may find it difficult in a trouble situation. Also, though society is slowly becoming open-minded, some marriages may still be frowned upon or openly discouraged (the recent incidents of the khap panchayats indulging in honour killing or certain families ensuring the boy/girl are murdered are extreme consequences of a love marriage).
To sum up, each of the approaches has its own merits and demerits. To say that one approach works and the other does not would be incorrect. At the end of the day, it is for an individual to decide whether s/he wants to go in for an arranged marriage or a love marriage. Jane Austen's quote gives a fitting gist: "Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well known to each other or ever so similar beforehand, it does not advance their felicity in the least. They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life."
This blog entry (being submitted as an entry for the Indiblogger contest www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange) shall try and examine the pros and cons of both the approaches.
Arranged marriage, as a concept, is based on the premise that your elders know what is best for you and can take a better decision than you. Also, in olden times, when marriages used to happen at a young age, the groom and the bride were not mature enough to take such an important decision of choosing their life partner. Additionally, since in the earlier ages, a lot of women were not going in for higher education or forming a large part of the workforce, it was difficult to fall in love and ensure its culmination into marriage (which is largely the scenario these days). Also, especially in India, since religions/castes/sects/sub-sects/languages, etc. plays such a pivotal role in our day-to-day living, fixing a marriage with a person from the same religion/caste, etc. was being practised.
The main advantage (if you can call it that) in an arranged marriage is that you can explore a completely new relationship with your spouse as you go along on the journey of life. Everything is an adventure, everything seems special and new. Also, since your parents have fixed the relation, you have their unstinted support when it comes to your family life. Adjustment issues might be minimized based on the religion/caste/language criteria. Also, you are more willing to adjust and ensure not to hurt your partner since both of you are learning each other’s habits and way of living on almost a daily basis.
The argument in favour of arranged marriage can also be made based on the fact that so many of them are working successfully since time immemorial. And the husband and wife have truly learned to love each other after marriage.
In recent times, due to globalization, increased presence of women at the workforce/in higher education and the youth being more aware, love marriages are gaining prominence, even in a traditional society like India. Firstly, the young are marrying at a relatively later age, after having established themselves financially. Thus, they believe they are mature enough to select a life partner themselves and not depend on their family.
Secondly, there are enough opportunities available to today’s youth to mingle with each other, fall in love and eventually get married. Love marriages usually happen during Engineering/MBA/CA days or when two people work together on a prolonged basis. Being with each other almost day in and day out exposes you to the person’s true nature – their likes/dislikes, their strengths/weaknesses, their temper, their thinking, etc. Based on the same, a judgement can be made about whether one is compatible with the other.
A break-down of religious/casteist sentiments has led to a surge in inter-caste/inter-religious marriages in recent times. Today parents are also more open-minded in accepting such alliances compared to previous times.
One of the primary negatives associated with an arranged marriage is the inability to adjust. As there is not much time for the couple to interact before marriage, in case one of them has very shocking qualities/habits, it may become difficult for the other to adjust. Also, it is generally believed that both the groom and the bride are on their best behaviour before marriage and the real nature comes out into the open only after marriage.
It is also usually observed (though not necessarily) that the practise of arranged marriage is associated with dowry. The boy’s parents demand a lot of things pre-marriage and the girl’s family, in a bid to placate them, provide the same. This, however, continues throughout the lifetime which may put the girl’s family under a heavy burden.
The negatives around love marriage usually center around the fact that either the boy or the girl “change” their habits after marriage. Since both have spent a reasonable amount of time with each other before getting married, they believe they know each other in and out. But, as they say, a husband is different from a boyfriend. This may lead to disputes between the couple. The willingness to adjust is minimal for the same reasons stated above.
Sometimes, in case either of the families does not support the marriage for whatever reason, the couple may find it difficult in a trouble situation. Also, though society is slowly becoming open-minded, some marriages may still be frowned upon or openly discouraged (the recent incidents of the khap panchayats indulging in honour killing or certain families ensuring the boy/girl are murdered are extreme consequences of a love marriage).
To sum up, each of the approaches has its own merits and demerits. To say that one approach works and the other does not would be incorrect. At the end of the day, it is for an individual to decide whether s/he wants to go in for an arranged marriage or a love marriage. Jane Austen's quote gives a fitting gist: "Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well known to each other or ever so similar beforehand, it does not advance their felicity in the least. They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life."
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Book Review: Tea for Two and A Piece of Cake
This is one of my first book reviews. The author is a well-known blogger - http://justamotheroftwo.blogspot.in - someone whom I have been following for such a long time. Tea for Two and A Piece of Cake is her third book, her first two have been national best-sellers.
The book starts off in the present and keeps alternating between the present and the past. It is a love story between three people but there are several more whose lives are inter-twined with these three. Preeti's writing style is free-flowing and lucid and she manages to keep us engrossed through the entire length of the book (I finished it in one sitting :))
The book explores various relationships as the story moves forward and you tend to want to know what is happening with the protagonist's life; it definitely is a page-turner. You also identify with the ups and downs that she is going through as she questions the decisions she has made at each stage of her life.
The part I liked the most is that Preeti has named all the chapters after a lot of famous songs; that is most certainly unique :) I wish her all the luck and hope this book goes on to become a best-seller as well!
The book starts off in the present and keeps alternating between the present and the past. It is a love story between three people but there are several more whose lives are inter-twined with these three. Preeti's writing style is free-flowing and lucid and she manages to keep us engrossed through the entire length of the book (I finished it in one sitting :))
The book explores various relationships as the story moves forward and you tend to want to know what is happening with the protagonist's life; it definitely is a page-turner. You also identify with the ups and downs that she is going through as she questions the decisions she has made at each stage of her life.
The part I liked the most is that Preeti has named all the chapters after a lot of famous songs; that is most certainly unique :) I wish her all the luck and hope this book goes on to become a best-seller as well!
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Movie-books-music tag
Rules:
1.The tag has three parts..Movies,Music, Books/ Authors.
2.Write a movie, book and author with each alphabet of your first name. The book, movie or song should be one that you really liked. If you say why it matters to you, it would be great! We will all discover new songs, movies and books this way.
3.Tag as many people as there are letters in your name.
4.The tag originated here http://justamotheroftwo.blogspot.com/2011/03/fun-movie-books-music-tag.html
5.Copy paste these rules :)
Movies
Parineeta: Saif, Vidya & Sanjay - the trio rocked Box Office...and, of course, Kaisi Paheli Yeh Zindagani
Andaz Apna Apna: See it to believe it! You will never get bored seeing the movie :)
Love: Salman Khan in a much more sober version; Revati at her usual best...
Lakshya: Hrithik, Ladakh, Preity, awesome songs, wonderful script - what's not to like?
Anand: Babu Moshai! Hum sab kattputli hain :) Rajesh/Amitabh's pair worked wonders.
Viruddh: Ageing parents fighting for justice for their dead son.
Indecent Proposal: With Robert Redford suggesting a deal, who could refuse? :)
Authors/books
Paulo Coelho: Inspirational stuff..When you want something, the entire universe conspires in helping you to achieve it
Ayn Rand: Who is John Galt? Read Rand to find out!!!
Love in the Time of Cholera: Gabriel Garcia Marquez's masterpiece
Love Story: What do you say about a 25-year-old who died?
A Suitable Boy: Vikram Seth's magnum opus about a mother's search for a son-in-law :)
Vikram Seth: :) adore him...An Equal Music, yet to read The Golden Gate though
It's Not About The Bike: Lance Armstrong on Tour de France; it's hard not to get inspired...
Songs
Pehla Nasha: song of young romance...song of Aamir with Pooja...we have all sung this at least once :)
Abhi Kuch Dinon Se: Mohit Chauhan in Dil Toh Bachcha Hain Ji!!!
Lakdi Ki Kaathi: Masoom...Naseer...Shabana...
Love Is All Around: Wet Wet Wet...I feel it in my fingers :)
Aaj Din Chaddeya: Kaise khuda hain tu...Saif pleading with God in Love Aaj Kal
Vaada Rahan Sanam: Akshay & Ayesha in Khiladi
In Dino Dil Mera: Life In A Metro
Movies
Parineeta: Saif, Vidya & Sanjay - the trio rocked Box Office...and, of course, Kaisi Paheli Yeh Zindagani
Andaz Apna Apna: See it to believe it! You will never get bored seeing the movie :)
Love: Salman Khan in a much more sober version; Revati at her usual best...
Lakshya: Hrithik, Ladakh, Preity, awesome songs, wonderful script - what's not to like?
Anand: Babu Moshai! Hum sab kattputli hain :) Rajesh/Amitabh's pair worked wonders.
Viruddh: Ageing parents fighting for justice for their dead son.
Indecent Proposal: With Robert Redford suggesting a deal, who could refuse? :)
Authors/books
Paulo Coelho: Inspirational stuff..When you want something, the entire universe conspires in helping you to achieve it
Ayn Rand: Who is John Galt? Read Rand to find out!!!
Love in the Time of Cholera: Gabriel Garcia Marquez's masterpiece
Love Story: What do you say about a 25-year-old who died?
A Suitable Boy: Vikram Seth's magnum opus about a mother's search for a son-in-law :)
Vikram Seth: :) adore him...An Equal Music, yet to read The Golden Gate though
It's Not About The Bike: Lance Armstrong on Tour de France; it's hard not to get inspired...
Songs
Pehla Nasha: song of young romance...song of Aamir with Pooja...we have all sung this at least once :)
Abhi Kuch Dinon Se: Mohit Chauhan in Dil Toh Bachcha Hain Ji!!!
Lakdi Ki Kaathi: Masoom...Naseer...Shabana...
Love Is All Around: Wet Wet Wet...I feel it in my fingers :)
Aaj Din Chaddeya: Kaise khuda hain tu...Saif pleading with God in Love Aaj Kal
Vaada Rahan Sanam: Akshay & Ayesha in Khiladi
In Dino Dil Mera: Life In A Metro
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
A Vanished Friend
Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end;
Yet days go by, & weeks rush on,
And before I know it a year is gone,
And I never see my old friend's face,
For life is a swift & terrible race.
He knows I like him just as well
As in the days when I rang his bell
And he rang mine. We were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men:
Tired with playing a foolish game,
Tired with trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow," I say, "I will call on Jim,
Just to show I am thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes & tomorrow goes,
And the distance between us grows & grows.
Around the corner – yet miles away…
"Here's the telegram, Sir…
'Jim died today'."
And that's what we get, & deserve in the end:
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
- Charles Hanson Towne
I was reminded of this poem yesterday when I got a call from one of my oldest & very dear friends. We’ve been friends for over 13 years now; which I would like to believe is a pretty long time. But we haven’t really been in touch for a LONG time now, always citing the reason of being “busy” with work.
Yesterday, I felt terrible when I had to ask him who it was; I didn’t even recognize his voice. He commented it showed how less we were in contact & both of us realized that work has taken such a huge toll on us that we could not even make the effort to remain in touch; forget meeting personally (considering he stays only 15 minutes away from my house).
Makes me wonder whether all this is worth it. I am reminded of another poem by William Henry Davies – “What is this life if full of care, We have no time to stand & stare”
In this great city that has no end;
Yet days go by, & weeks rush on,
And before I know it a year is gone,
And I never see my old friend's face,
For life is a swift & terrible race.
He knows I like him just as well
As in the days when I rang his bell
And he rang mine. We were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men:
Tired with playing a foolish game,
Tired with trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow," I say, "I will call on Jim,
Just to show I am thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes & tomorrow goes,
And the distance between us grows & grows.
Around the corner – yet miles away…
"Here's the telegram, Sir…
'Jim died today'."
And that's what we get, & deserve in the end:
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
- Charles Hanson Towne
I was reminded of this poem yesterday when I got a call from one of my oldest & very dear friends. We’ve been friends for over 13 years now; which I would like to believe is a pretty long time. But we haven’t really been in touch for a LONG time now, always citing the reason of being “busy” with work.
Yesterday, I felt terrible when I had to ask him who it was; I didn’t even recognize his voice. He commented it showed how less we were in contact & both of us realized that work has taken such a huge toll on us that we could not even make the effort to remain in touch; forget meeting personally (considering he stays only 15 minutes away from my house).
Makes me wonder whether all this is worth it. I am reminded of another poem by William Henry Davies – “What is this life if full of care, We have no time to stand & stare”
Monday, May 21, 2007
Appreciating People
The other day, one of my very good friends, sent me an sms as part of her personality development programme. It read: “Hi…Wanted to tell you that am very lucky to have someone as wonderful, caring & loving as you in my life. Thanks for being there.”
Instead of being delighted about it, the very first thought that came to mind was “Is she contemplating suicide or elopement”? I know it sounds pretty disgusting but isn’t that how we all are? I mean, just recollect the last time someone gave you a compliment/an appreciation note. Instead of accepting the same gracefully, we either question the person’s intentions or think that the message may not be for us after all. That was what I thought as well. Did she really intend sending me this message???
I decided to try out the same on my friends – people who I believe are really important in my life. The following were their responses:
“What happened? Are you sure this message was for me? If it was, I am very flattered. Thanks.
“What happened? Was that forwarded message? Or you really mean it?”
“Eh? Was that for me?”
“Hey, what’s with you? Did that message come to me by mistake?”
“Just wanted to know what prompted that”
Not a single friend of mine gracefully accepted the acknowledgement I was giving him / her. Only after I replied that nothing was the matter with me & it indeed was meant for the intended person, did responses pour in like, “The feeling is mutual”, “I am thankful for having you in my life as well”, etc.
I know the importance I have in my friend’s life & she in mine. It’s only that we have never got around probably to appreciating it like this – in writing!!!!! But I really liked the “experiment” & would suggest all of you to try out the same on your friends as well. It’s a wonderful way to assure them of the things they probably take for granted.
The other day, one of my very good friends, sent me an sms as part of her personality development programme. It read: “Hi…Wanted to tell you that am very lucky to have someone as wonderful, caring & loving as you in my life. Thanks for being there.”
Instead of being delighted about it, the very first thought that came to mind was “Is she contemplating suicide or elopement”? I know it sounds pretty disgusting but isn’t that how we all are? I mean, just recollect the last time someone gave you a compliment/an appreciation note. Instead of accepting the same gracefully, we either question the person’s intentions or think that the message may not be for us after all. That was what I thought as well. Did she really intend sending me this message???
I decided to try out the same on my friends – people who I believe are really important in my life. The following were their responses:
“What happened? Are you sure this message was for me? If it was, I am very flattered. Thanks.
“What happened? Was that forwarded message? Or you really mean it?”
“Eh? Was that for me?”
“Hey, what’s with you? Did that message come to me by mistake?”
“Just wanted to know what prompted that”
Not a single friend of mine gracefully accepted the acknowledgement I was giving him / her. Only after I replied that nothing was the matter with me & it indeed was meant for the intended person, did responses pour in like, “The feeling is mutual”, “I am thankful for having you in my life as well”, etc.
I know the importance I have in my friend’s life & she in mine. It’s only that we have never got around probably to appreciating it like this – in writing!!!!! But I really liked the “experiment” & would suggest all of you to try out the same on your friends as well. It’s a wonderful way to assure them of the things they probably take for granted.
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